Risks and Rewards of a High-Flying Career
“What I learned after years of scraping my way to the top, was there was no There There.”
These were the words uttered to me by one of the most successful business women in Kansas City. I was in my early twenties having lunch with a board member of the foundation where I worked as a program officer. I had gotten to know Linda and asked if she would be willing to have lunch with me so I could learn from her about how to manage my career.
I was in awe of her.
At the time she was the founder and CEO of a very successful legal temporary services company, one of the first of its kind in the country. She had started the firm after a storied career at one of the city’s largest law firms where had become one of the only female managing partners of major law firm.
I was young, ambitious and hungry to learn from a woman who had achieved a successful career and status as one of the most influential executives in the city.
I had expected her to tell me about long hours in the office and the sacrifice of vacations and time spent with family. I expected her to tell me about the trials and travails of the glass ceiling and how she overcame those obstacles to succeed in a male-dominated industry.
I didn’t expect her to tell me that once she got to the top spot, she discovered that all that glittered wasn’t gold. Maybe I had heard her incorrectly.
I hadn’t.
During that hour lunch she broke it down for me. She shared how had been passed over for multiple promotions. She described the long hours in the office and weeks of travel working on complex legal cases. She spoke of her anguish of time away from her family.
After nearly two decades in the business she gave it all up to start her own company. People told her she was crazy to leave her lucrative partnership at her law firm to start a business. This was after all before temporary work for white collar professionals had become commonplace as it is today.
She ignored the critics and started the firm anyway.
Her company became wildly successful and she eventually sold it for millions of dollars to a major temporary services company.
I’m reminded of that conversation now as the debate about women, career achievement and work-life balance once again dominates our attention.
Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg’s book Lean In is hot off the presses and has been hotly debated for weeks. In it she urges women to claim their power and confront their limitations to propel themselves further, faster in their careers. Sandberg certainly has plenty of critics and boosters. Regardless, I think she’s raised an important discussion around women, leadership and the delicate balance of work and life. I’ve held off weighing in on Sandberg’s manifesto until I’ve read the book. But I’m anxious to dig in and share my insights.
So over the next eight weeks, I plan to dedicate a blog post to themes raised in the book and some not covered but that I think are important. I’ll talk about the issues surrounding women and ambition, career planning and the fertility factor, the importance of political savvy, the connection between leadership and fitness, women and competition and the likability factor. I can’t wait to explore these issues with you and get your thoughts!
I’m also excited to be part of a group of working mom bloggers who participate in a weekly Twitter Chat hosted by Working Mom Journal. We meet every Wednesday at 9pm EST and tweet under the hashtag #WorkingMomChat. This week we’ll be talking about the debate surrounding Sheryl Sandberg’s book, her philosophy and what it means for women.
Are you ready?
Let’s get to work!





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This is interesting stuff! The climb I’m on today is a much different track than it was 15 years ago. I want to build “my own” instead of building someone else’s dream in the corporate world. I got off that roller coaster. The corporates pushed me down like a squashed bug and passed me over when it was rightly due to me. I have a bunch of disheartening stories I could tell. But anyways, I’m much happier today. I didn’t realize at the time, but the corporates did me a favor.
Josie, I definitely think there is a trend of women starting their own businesses for all of the reasons you state. I think more and more women are deciding that the price they have to pay to make money for others, to fit in to a mold that may not fit, is just too high. And afterall, if you are going to work your butt off it may as well be for yourself, right? I also think that more women are creating “side hustles” that allow them to pursue passion projects.
I recently finished reading Sandburg’s book. Since Slaughter’s article in The Atlantic, there has been a groundswell of conversation about the myriad of choices SOME women have and those opportunities and challenges faced as a result. There are very strong advocates and naysayers when it comes to the most prominent themes of the book. What I found most interesting were the overlooked yet insightful personal perspectives and experiences that Sandburg shared. While she definitely makes a point (several times in the book) to highlight that privilege affords her opportunities and choices that many other women do not have, she owns that her truth/voice is neither more nor less valid that any other woman’s. I respect that. Although my ”career jungle gym” has meandered, the book reinforced that my path does not have to be traditional; that my decisions and choices are my own; and that I can sit at the table as a nonprofit leader, community volunteer, PTA mommy or the COO of Johnson Household Inc. Whatever I do, my goal is to be conscious of my motivation while being true to the multifaceted, dynamic and messy individual that I am and embrace my evolution.
Monique, I agree with you. I just finished the book this week and was pleasantly surprised. So many of the critics made it sound like Sandberg wasn’t self aware about the privilege she enjoys. I disagree. I too heard that what she is challenging women to do is to look at their own situation and fly higher, go further WHERE EVER that may be. While I don’t agree with everything she’s written (and I’ll address that in upcoming posts), I think she brings a refreshing voice. It’s time we had this dialogue!
There is a collective awakening on so many levels and these conversations are evidence of that. What is my motivation? What is my purpose? What do I value? These are some of the questions that I increasingly hear floating in the atmosphere (and in my head). When we speak our truth, move beyond ego, and ignore the chatter, we always make the best life decisions.
What a great blog!! Thank you.